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If you have small hands, I would highly recommend looking at the CZ 75, the SIG-Sauer pistols, and a 1911. All can be had in 9mm, and all come in compact models. Or, if you are of a sixgun persuasion, I'd highly recommend looking at a Ruger or S&W double action revolver. The grips on them can be a bit smaller, since you don't have to wrap your hands around a magazine. I've had one girlfriend drool over the SIG, but most of the rest of them preferred revolvers and 1911s (the 1911 has a single stack magazine, which makes the grip slimmer). I've never known a girl that couldn't shoot a 1911 well (even the .45ACP ones!). As for recoil, since you specifically want a 9mm, the issue will come down to the weight of the gun. A heavier gun will recoil less, a lightweight one will recoil more.
For a fella with big hands, the Beretta 96 is actually a good choice. There is nothing hard to take care of on them. They were developed as a service pistol for the military, so they made them very easy to field strip and maintain. They do have a very big grip on them, so a guy with big hands might like it. I used to have one myself, but I got bit by the 1911 bug and got rid of it. It never failed to function perfectly once in all the years I had it, though. Not once. I'd trust my life to one in a heartbeat. I'd also recommend looking at the HK USP series, the SIGs, 1911s, and some medium-large frame revolvers (you can get all different kinds of grips for sixshooters). He might even like the CZ 75. I sure like the feel of 'em, and I've got some big hands.
The best way to go about picking one out for yourself is to browse around the different manufacturers and make a list of a couple of pistols that interest you. Go to the nearest place that has a large selection of guns. Hold every one that you have on your list, if they have it. Get a good feel for what your hand likes. If it doesn't feel good in your hand, cross it off the list because you'll NEVER like it. Be sure to see what all else is in the cabinet as well. You never know what you might find, and you just might fall in love with it. One thing I learned from my years as a salesman: 85% of people looking for something specific will go home with something entirely different. You should definately bring him along so he can do the same. That way you'll get him something that he'll definately like.... otherwise it'll spend a lot of time in the safe at home.
Once you get it home, read the manual cover to cover, word for word. Then take the pistol out of the box, and read the manual again while holding it and looking it over. Field strip it and clean it thoroughly, and then read the manual again. This ensures that you know where everything is at and how it goes together before you go shoot it. I go through the same routine every time I get a new one. It's good to know EVERYTHING the pistol does and how it does it before you ever put ammo in the thing.
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You both might want to look at a Browning/FN Hi-Power as well. It is seen as the "improved" 1911, though I don't see how you can improve on what is already perfect :wink: . The HP certainly does feel good in the hand, though.
If you have small hands, I would highly recommend looking at the CZ 75, the SIG-Sauer pistols, and a 1911. All can be had in 9mm, and all come in compact models. Or, if you are of a sixgun persuasion, I'd highly recommend looking at a Ruger or S&W double action revolver. The grips on them can be a bit smaller, since you don't have to wrap your hands around a magazine. I've had one girlfriend drool over the SIG, but most of the rest of them preferred revolvers and 1911s (the 1911 has a single stack magazine, which makes the grip slimmer). I've never known a girl that couldn't shoot a 1911 well (even the .45ACP ones!). As for recoil, since you specifically want a 9mm, the issue will come down to the weight of the gun. A heavier gun will recoil less, a lightweight one will recoil more.
For a fella with big hands, the Beretta 96 is actually a good choice. There is nothing hard to take care of on them. They were developed as a service pistol for the military, so they made them very easy to field strip and maintain. They do have a very big grip on them, so a guy with big hands might like it. I used to have one myself, but I got bit by the 1911 bug and got rid of it. It never failed to function perfectly once in all the years I had it, though. Not once. I'd trust my life to one in a heartbeat. I'd also recommend looking at the HK USP series, the SIGs, 1911s, and some medium-large frame revolvers (you can get all different kinds of grips for sixshooters). He might even like the CZ 75. I sure like the feel of 'em, and I've got some big hands.
The best way to go about picking one out for yourself is to browse around the different manufacturers and make a list of a couple of pistols that interest you. Go to the nearest place that has a large selection of guns. Hold every one that you have on your list, if they have it. Get a good feel for what your hand likes. If it doesn't feel good in your hand, cross it off the list because you'll NEVER like it. Be sure to see what all else is in the cabinet as well. You never know what you might find, and you just might fall in love with it. One thing I learned from my years as a salesman: 85% of people looking for something specific will go home with something entirely different. You should definately bring him along so he can do the same. That way you'll get him something that he'll definately like.... otherwise it'll spend a lot of time in the safe at home.
Once you get it home, read the manual cover to cover, word for word. Then take the pistol out of the box, and read the manual again while holding it and looking it over. Field strip it and clean it thoroughly, and then read the manual again. This ensures that you know where everything is at and how it goes together before you go shoot it. I go through the same routine every time I get a new one. It's good to know EVERYTHING the pistol does and how it does it before you ever put ammo in the thing.
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You both might want to look at a Browning/FN Hi-Power as well. It is seen as the "improved" 1911, though I don't see how you can improve on what is already perfect :wink: . The HP certainly does feel good in the hand, though.