When it comes to revolvers I love a good Smith & Wesson which is why I would recommend a "Lady Smith" :wink: They are very well made and ment to fit in the hand of a lady. You said that she has a problem with recoil so the smaller frame style of the "Lady Smith" will be easier for her to wrap her hands around for better control but beaware of the .357's recoil, they pack a punch and she might lose the gun. The Model 60LS would be the choice for .357 and can be used as a single or a double action revolver. Hope everything works out 
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http://www.smith-wesson.com/webapp/wcs/ ... y_rn=15704